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  1. Great job on the podcast. You hit pretty much all the issues of the matter, especially the part where you made all women your enemies (kidding). As much as this is the obvious truth that you have gone through/organised, it is also the obvious truth for you to anticipate this kind of behaviour (putting aside if its either men or women at this point) from them. The matter at hand is on how you handle it.

    If there is such a thing like Organising 101, you know there should be a change in the organisation in handling this kind of situation. The problem is that we keep looking at this situation as men’s problems or women’s problem, which at the end of the day, it is just another problem to be handled. Forget about how the person will complain either if it was through instagram or facebook, that is their personal problem,(which in a way this whole podcast sounds like a complain, at least to me) but what are you going to do about it? That is just how the cookie crumbles. People complain, and in terms of feedback (a small stereotype) you will get a lot more from the women who would say it straight to your face then from the guys who would just talk about it at the mamak and end the discussion with ‘that is football’. You just have to look at it from another perspectives which in turn would help you a lot.

    Having listen to it as a human being, correct me if i’m wrong, you said the girls are not as talented as guys, implied that they are only good at shopping (to show their passion), and complain a lot (social media) and as true as this could be in your experience – you have not given the ladies any reason why football should be a sport for them. In my humblest opinion, this is what was missing in the podcast. I feel this podcast became an entertainment for guys to relate to similar problems they might have faced with girls rather than a source of motivation for the ladies.

    You have the voice and platform to encourage people to play football, start a conversation about important topics, and influence minds about using football as a uniting force. Put deeper analysis into your discussions. Talk to variety of human beings on this incredibly important issue as there are every different shades of grey of opinions and truth on this matter. Wishing you all the best on your journey.

    • Hey DrLotsofThoughts ! Faiz here. On behalf of The Balls, we would like to say thank you for listening and sharing your input towards our discussion. First and foremost we want to apologise if some points were offended to women. Basically, this content comes from how we always felt (From a men’s point of view), and it’s not fair for us to judge on the results and outcome. That’s why it’s important we receive inputs like yours, for us to review back our content and learn what can we improve. Our goals is to encourage people to play football, doesn’t matter gender or race. As long people get into the beautiful game.

      We humbly respect your opinion and please keep sharing with us. If there is an opportunity for us to talk back about this topic, surely we’ll have a proper guest to help us out. We wish we could share more but our air-time is quite limited for us to do so. We tried our best to jumble and rushed the important issues without a explaining the things we said. Thank you again for the feedback !

  2. First off, great job on the podcast so far, lots of important issues that you have touched on! While I enjoyed the analysis and comparisons to SEA and Western world in women’s football, this segment would’ve been much more interesting with a female footballer sharing her perspective and struggles.

    You spoke a bit about lack of talent, emotion, shopping and heels – these are really some struggles and stereotypes that daughters, sisters, girlfriends and wives face, day in and day out: our typically patriarchal society underestimating us and putting us down (or “protecting” us).

    Sure, we do lack the talent at first. To me, this is due to three things you mention: first, the lack of support in schools. I myself went to a government school and had the opportunity to plan some PJK lessons with teachers. When Futsal was suggested, it was immediately dismissed as a “sukan lelaki”, YET, we went on to play baseball, hockey and basketball; all of which are as “lasak” if not more, than football. If you’ve heard of this theory about mastery – that it takes 10,000 hours to truly be good at something, this puts us ladies at a huge disadvantage in terms of talent accumulation against the men.

    Second, of course, the government. Encouraging women’s participation in sports still remain a challenge. Providing sports facilities where women feel safe to pursue their passion without being catcalled, commented on or whistled at, would, in my opinion, improve female sports participation significantly. Having bright, open parking spaces and clean women’s toilets are important too. All of this would put parents at ease and allow their daughters to go out and play sports. I know I’ve lied to my mom about how safe I’ve felt in Futsal courts/ tournaments just to allay her fears.

    Third, it’s the (sad) belief system that you’re either a “beautiful girl” or a “tomboy”. With all due respect, there is a whole spectrum of women out there who do not categorise themselves in either of these definitions, and some who identify as BOTH. And when society makes it about how you look, it is an inherent demotivator for some women who may have the interest, but are afraid to chase them because of these stereotypes. Attitudes about how men talk about women have to change – not only for the benefit of women’s participation in sports like football, but also for the progression of our country.

    Having said that, I want to thank you for all the opportunities you’ve created for us women to play both Futsal and football. The Bobai Mixed endeavour just showed you how much diversity there are in the women who play Futsal: there have been pilots, models, statisticians, engineers and artists in all shapes and forms who played peacefully with each other. It was an amazing platform for real beginners to learn and continuously grow, and I hope it will be rebirthed!

    • Thank You for sharing Elena Almeida ! We would love to have you on the show and share with us the struggles from your point of view. Once again we apologise, if some of our points we’re inaccurate.

      We are trying our best to share what we feel and believe towards women’s football. We might be wrong but our main objective is to sincerely encourage more women to play football. Thank you again for your feedback ! Really appreciate it !

  3. Salam Faiz and Sabri, i really like your talk shows. I heard all 4 shows. Very funny and informative. But guys, do you think you guys will find your soulmate in football/futsal? Haaa discusss….

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